Excuse me, Are you Gay?

[Editor: Here's one that'll serve as a tissue paper for Brandy. Yes, yishun Brandy]

GAY.

1. A person whose sexual orientation is to persons of the same sex.
2. A person who is homosexual.

Some of us regard the word 'Gay' as taboo. Some of us tend to think gays or lesbians are just people with either sexual identity crisis or purely people who are sick in the head in terms of sexual orientation. [In my own words, I call em' insane in the membrane] Personally, I beg to differ. No, don't be quick to judge! I am not lesbian neither was I one nor am I holding a 'Support the gay community' campaign here.

I have friends some of which who are gay and some who are lesbians. Coming from a convent background, I have learnt to accept such people purely based on the fact that they, like any one of us reading this entry right now, are normal human beings with feelings and emotions. The only thing that separates them from a normal straight lady or man would be their sexual identity.

Yes, sexual identification. I've heard of some labels used to identify the many types of gays or lesbians you see loitering in the streets or clubs. Here are some of them. However, these are more applicable for the lesbians.

Butch/Bung: A female who dresses like a male. Has short cropped hair (Funky hairstyles apply too) Most of them are mistaken for guys.

Passive: A female who dresses like a girl and who is like any other ordinary girl, only thing she is harbouring gay feelings and is not attracted to the opposite sex.

Active: A female who dresses like a guy. She probably would be seen in jeans and polo tees most of the time and does not have short cropped hair. She might possess tomboyish manners but is still seen as a female on the whole due to the length of hair.

Yes, so these are some of the labels for lesbians. The other labels would be bisexual which applies to both genders. It literally means that the girl/guy is attracted to both sexes.

Let us take some time now to identify some possible reasons as to why people turn gay.

1. They have been either tomboyish (regard to girls) or girlish (regards to guys) since young.

2. As some girls grow up, they find that they are more interested in their own species compared to guys. Gay/lesbian attractions usually tend to be superficial.

3. Some girls detest men due to bad childhood experiences (Eg: Rape/Torture)

4. Some guys prefer to be women contributing to the increasing numbers of transvestites in Singapore. If they can't reach the level of being a tranny, they would be happy enough finding a partner with similar sexual orientation.

5. Most gays and lesbians discover their sexual identity during their teens. Some continue to be gay/lesbian for a long time never changing, while some come out of it over time.

6. Could this whole gay and lesbian thing possibly be a trend? Or does love exist between species of the same gender?

Having a few lesbian friends, I have posed such questions to them before. Some of them have said:

1. "Yes, true love could possibly exist between 2 females".

2. "I've always had an interest for girls".

3. "I find women more appealing than men".

4. "Men just bring trouble, I would rather be with women for they are more emotional and understanding".

5. "I love making out with women because they can pleasure me better than any man cause women always know what another woman wants!". [Just for the records, you friend didn't answer the question. Question is, Could this whole gay and lesbian thing possibly be a trend? Or does love exist between species of the same gender? From where in the world did her 2.5 milligram brain fork out the answer?]

6. "For the sake of thrill".

So there, we have heard their reasons. Those answers does not represent the community of lesbians but at least now we sort of know what makes them have such a sexual identity. They are still humans because it still boils down to one thing. Love. It exists amongst everyone of us in varying amounts. Love is all around! Lesbians/Gays have feelings too. We should stop condemning them just because of the way they are.

Most guys tend to detest lesbians and gays. [Who the hell said that? You have no idea how happy we feel when we witness two lesbians get it on] That point alone is understandable. They are afraid their girlfriends might turn lesbian soon. If you guys have watched The L Word (I'm a big time fan of it) you'd realise that there's this character named Jenny who was a straight girl but ended up dumping her boyfriend for a woman solely for the sake of her sexual pleasure and her crazy attraction towards women.

The world is funny isn't it? Then again, I'd like to say love and lust knows no boundaries and every human on this earth regardless of sex, race, identity is free to love. Don't condemn the gay community! [Like how Russell Peter's dad says it, "INDIAN MEN SHOULD NOT BE GAY!"]

P.S Why is it that some clubs have barred bungs from entering on ladies night? [It's simply to avoid confusion]

[Editor: Now I have a question. Which toilet does a bunk use? They sure as hell would not be able to squat in a men's urinal can they? And neither will they be allowed into a female toilet. These days, ladies hammer anything that resembles men in a women's toilet]