Infidelity- Attraction or Distraction?

[Editor: A very dejected Ragasiya wrote this post after she caught red handed her beloved boyfriend sleeping with her cat. This has been ongoing for a year now and the very heart broken her wrote this post dragging two Carleberg along the way. So much so that she didnt't even bother to answer me if he was having a doggy style with a cat]

Experiencing infidelity often calls for devastation. For others, especially in the tradition Asian outlook, its a big taboo. According to a website, recent surveys show that 40% of woman (this number is increasing) and 60% of men indulge themselves in extra-marital affairs. This actually amounts to 80% of relationships affected by infidelity.

Before one goes into the usual " Oh my god, why the heck would I wanna cheat/disappoint the near to perfection hubby/wifey that I've got?", think again cause I know you're lying. And guess what? Everyone's gonna know that too.

A study shows that it is almost impossible for one to stay faithful to their spouses in his/her lifetime. It also says that monogamy is the most uncommon of all the common categories of relationships. [Uncommon of all common? Ok, we all know what level you're in now]

Every male/female practice infidelity in their lives at least once. The braver ones do it outright with their pretty high hormonal levels by going ahead with extra-marital affairs and, well yeah, the weaker ones do it right there. Yeah right there, in their hearts. Fantasies of being with someone else and living a life with a 'better person but not my hubby/wifey' is what it means.

With the wind blowing from the west side, we all do know that the divorce levels are on the rise just like the sea levels right at Antarctica. Take a look at these statistics.

• from 2313 in 1983 to 6561 in 2003

• The highest divorce rate was seen among those who married young, between the ages of 20 and 24. Their divorce rate also registered the highest jump in the past 20 years

• The most common reason given for, cited by 49 percent of couples, was "unreasonable behaviour of spouse". The second most common reason was living apart or separation of three years or more.

http://www.singapore-window.org/sw04/040623a2.htm

Some of the most common excuses of infidelity are perceived lack of intimacy, boredom, stress at work and the usual "My spouse made me do that!" Somehow or rather, the finger points everywhere else then to their own selves.

I believe the basic reason why one seeks to infidelity is basically attraction. Ur eyes/mind/heart is attracted to someone else's intelligence/beauty/personality/behavior etc. And definitely such an attraction is a simple act of distraction from work/school/home etc.

To whether this attraction or distraction for that matter is justified after marriage is yours to debate. But then and again, just because one is in an relationship does not make him/her less human. Its up to one's discretion to pretty much decide on their rights to keep attraction within their hearts or to bring it to a higher level and break many other hearts.

So the next time you hear those gossip queens and the rising number of kings yakking about this, you know they are just lying as much. Now u know the truth. The truth that probably everyone knew but never faced it. Hid it like a 'true blue' Samaritan and stood side by side with the ugly lie that came with the label of 'societal norms'. What is left is the irony of it all.

So if you're attracted and distracted, cool, face it. You're just being human. But trying to explain to ur spouse about this, for the men, yes being hit by the stilettos is painful and to the women, trust me, you wouldn't wanna see a crying man.

Look back, think. And just in case the one sleeping next to you rouses suspicion juices in ur lil' head, watch out. [Whether or not the spouse wanted to raise suspicions, you have made 100% sure that a fight will break out at a home near us. Just in case a fight is indeed what breaks out due to suspicion thanks to our drunk ragasiya here, don't worry about it, shit happens]